Roommate argument: a lesson for ages 18 to 25
Disagreements go better with "I" statements and a shared plan. Listening first shows respect and makes compromise easier.
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The situation
You and your roommate disagree about how clean the kitchen needs to be.
It has turned into sarcastic comments every day.
What would you do?
- Sit down together and agree on a simple plan.
- Leave passive-aggressive notes everywhere.
See the recommended choice and why
Recommended choice
Sit down together and agree on a simple plan.
Disagreements go better with "I" statements and a shared plan. Listening first shows respect and makes compromise easier.
Your next step
Suggest a time this week to talk it through.
Words you can use
“Can we figure out a kitchen plan that works for both of us?”
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