Identity Ages 13 to 15

Cut from the team: a lesson for ages 13 to 15

Getting cut hurts, and it is okay to feel it. Your worth is not one roster.

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The situation

Tryouts for the school basketball team ended today, and the list just went up outside the gym.

  1. Teammate: Yo, list is up by the gym.
  2. You: Wait, really? Already?
  3. Friend: Yeah, come on. Let's look before everyone crowds around.
  4. You: Man... my stomach just dropped.
  5. Friend: You're fine, bro. Let's just go.

Your name is not on it. Two of your friends made the team, and you want to hide.

What would you do?

  • Feel disappointed, then talk to the coach about what to work on.
  • Tell everyone the team is stupid and quit playing.
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Recommended choice

Feel disappointed, then talk to the coach about what to work on.

Getting cut hurts, and it is okay to feel it. Your worth is not one roster. Asking for feedback, practicing and trying other activities keeps your options open and shows real strength.

Your next step

Ask the coach for one skill to practice before next season.

Words you can use

“What do I need to work on for next year?”

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